The Height of Adult Pleasure for Some
There’s a reason why dominatrixes have been around since at least the 18th century. To many, BDSM represents the height of adult pleasure. When you learn how to play with sex toys and bondage, a whole new world of experiences opens up to you; one filled with intrigue, tension, and romance. If you’re lacking a sense of drama and adventure, then sex toys and bondage are a great way to introduce those sensations to your life!
Bondage is something you and your partner should ease into, and everyone involved should feel free to stop exploring at any time if you realize it just isn’t for them. Keep this in mind as you explore. If you’re just starting to use sex toys for bondage, then read on for tips on easing into it and setting rules!
Using Sex Toys For Bondage
Here at Velvet Cock, we believe that sexual nirvana comes from a perfect combo of the physical and emotional pleasures of sex. Our product line, The Thruster, is not only an effective tool for physical pleasure but also a great toy for teasing. Often times, the more you can’t get something, the more you’ll want it. That includes sex toys during bondage.
Picture this: your partner ties you to the bed and takes control of a toy like Jackie or Teddy. They control the speed so that it starts slow, then speeds up to penetrate you hard. When you’re practically begging for more, your partner slows it down again and forces you to pleasure them before you get more.
Sex toys like Velvet Thrusters alternate speeds easily, giving you optimal control over how much to give or withhold. Experiment with using your sex toys with bondage techniques to get the most out of them!
Easing Into Bondage
If this is your first time venturing into BDSM, you might be a little unsure about where to start; especially since sex toys for bondage can get pretty intense. But have no fear, because many people before you have struggled with the same issues, and many tried and true strategies have come out of their efforts! Borrow some of the following tips to ease into bondage with your partner.
- Start With Someone You Trust. When you’re first starting out, it wouldn’t be wise to meet someone on a kinky dating site and request to try BDSM with them. BDSM requires communication and a certain degree of comfort to start on the right foot, so you’ll need to be experienced before you can try it with relative strangers. Conversely, those in long-term relationships will be happy to hear that using sex toys for bondage is actually very popular with married couples!
- You Don’t Need To Use Toys At First. Bondage is often associated with sex toys such as handcuffs, ropes, paddles, and swings. Toys are exciting, but you can actually begin having fun without dropping the bucks right away. Talk dirty with your partner authoritatively to explore domination, or even rub an ice cube ever so gently across their skin.
- Start With Easy Sex Toys For Bondage. When you’re first starting out, you may not be ready for painful or intense BDSM toys. Start slow! Toys such as blindfolds will heighten your sensitivity, while toys like handcuffs will put you at your partner’s mercy, all without causing pain. Take your time to work up to toys like those that work automatically.
- Learn From Porn. Watching bondage porn can actually be helpful for those just starting to explore bondage techniques. Be very careful in what you choose to emulate though. Remember, pornography is a performance, and rarely completely represents what actual couples do.
Safe Words And Other Rules For Using Sex Toys And Bondage
When things begin heating up for real in the bedroom, open communication will be key. We recommend you set boundaries and determine rules beforehand so that your exploration goes smoothly. These are some of the strategies that we’ve found to be useful:
- Decide On A Safe Word. Safe words are one of the most important rules in BDSM. Bondage often involves role play. What if your partner, who’s playing a pushy pirate, is hurting you? Well, you could say “stop,” but resistance is such a big part of BDSM that they might think it’s part of the act. That’s why you need a safe word that isn’t “no” or “stop.” Choose something memorable and unsexy, such as “edamame” or “Wichita,” for your safe word.
- Set A Time Limit Beforehand. If you’re trying a new sex toy or bondage technique and you’re not sure if you’ll like it, then set a time limit before trying it out. The alarm clock will keep things from getting uncomfortable or awkward.
- Debrief Afterwards. It can be distracting to talk about rules and boundaries during sex, so make plans to talk about your experience after you play.
- Feel Free To Be A Switch. Don’t feel pressured to label yourself as dominant or submissive right off the bat. You deserve time to explore your preferences. A “switch” is someone who switches between dominant or submissive, depending on mood and situation. Be a switch for your first few sessions, and you might find that you really enjoy the role reversal.
Take The Leap: Try Sex Toys And Bondage!
In bondage play, boundaries come down to reveal an awesome lusty power dynamic. And the best part? You decide how far to go, what toys to use, and what persona to take on! You decide if you’re in a generous mood or a punishing one. BDSM is also a great way to get to know yourself and your partner better.
Give yourself something to look forward to by creating a spicy hot collection of sex toys for bondage. Whether they’re as high-tech as our thruster, or as simple as nipple clamps, toys will restrain, titillate, or even hurt you oh-so-deliciously, greatly heightening your experience in the bedroom. Take the leap with your partner and explore sex toys and bondage at a pace that works for you.
